Of all the many reasons being in love is just phenomenal, one of the best is that you’ve got a best friend right there with you. All you want to do is spend your time with him.

You’ve seen it. Your friend hangs out a lot, goes out multiple nights of the week and is generally very social. Want to go shopping Saturday? She’s in. Want to see that chick flick? Definitely.

Then BAM! She gets a boyfriend. Or, he gets a girlfriend. Time and time again I’ve heard single people mention that their friend “used to hang out all the time until…”

cloud_9I’m guilty of it. And I’m guilty of dissing my coupled friends for deserting me when I’m single.

Lately, my world has a narrow aperture. I’m feeling out of touch.

Three of my best girlfriends are all in serious relationships and we’re all making lots of fun plans with our guys. Hey, it’s summer. We’ve got things to do.

Aside from vacations and weekend trips to Carolina Beach, I’ve been busy at work, so even there — where I see two of my girlfriends daily —  I don’t feel like I have time to talk much. Plus, I don’t feel like I have much to say unless they want me to endlessly wax poetic about Kevin and how happy I am and how perfect it is and how I’ve never felt this way about anyone and blah blah blah. You’re bored, right? I mean, who wants to listen to someone go on and on about how perfect life is? Your ears would bleed.

This disconnect bothers me. I love having close girlfriends. Now that we don’t need to gossip about boys and sex anymore, what do we talk about? As we get older and change, hang out with other couples, other people, do we grow apart? We all have different priorities, busy schedules. There are only so many hours in the day. It’s no one’s fault, and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. And hey, I’m happy — the view is pretty from my perch on Cloud 9.

Still, the wise old people always say that marriage takes work. But what about those other relationships in your life?  Doesn’t it take a little effort to make sure my best friends and I still talk, hang out, know some of the minuscule details (and the big ones) about each other’s lives?

Shouldn’t my aperture widen to also extend to the other people who’ve been cast out of focus lately due to all of our busy plans and my current cosmic residence?

I think it might be time for a girls’ night out. See you all on Glenwood Friday?

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